The 4 Kinds of People And What You Can Learn From Them
I have googled variations of this phrase many times and have always failed to find its origin. Guesses include the writings of Jean Paul Sartre and/or an old episode of TV’s The White Shadow. Regardless, I believe it is the truest and wisest thing ever uttered by an existentialist French philosopher and/or fictional inner city high school basketball coach. And
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I have placed a picture of breasts next to this paragraph in the hope of attracting the Net’s attention to this important introductory point. The expression suggests that you be most concerned about the people who are right to dislike you. Basically, listen only to valid criticism, and become a better person. But as I examined the expression further, I realized that in order to understand which people fit into that final category, you need to examine all the categories, and each category has its own value. The way I see it, the last category is set aside more as the best place to start for self improvement not the only one that matters. So that’s what I did below. I examined each category using
cheap Michael Kors examples from my life to illustrate. Specifically, two very formative areas of my existence: college and writing for the Internet (I would have used examples from your life, but I don’t know you that well. You seem cool, though. You read Cracked and pay attention to breast based paragraphs. We should hang out.)
Who are these people who like you for the wrong reasons? Well, there are many kinds. People who like you because other people like you or because they think they’re supposed to like you.
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College Based Real Life Example:
When I look back at my life, there is definitely one category of person who liked me for the wrong reasons: just about any girl who had sex with me in college. I went to school at Cornell, which in my day was composed almost entirely of either sorority chicks or hippies. Neither group was particularly attractive to me.
And just like that, hippies started having sex with me. It didn’t matter that I hated Phish and the Grateful Dead or that I didn’t get
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I had a short term girlfriend who used to think I was the nicest guy in the world
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3. People Who Like You For The Right Reasons
This is very subjective. It’s quite possible you have no idea what the right reasons for liking
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College Based Real Life Example:
Something I forgot to mention about my college days. I went to school at the height of political correctness. So when I say there were hippies there, understand that these were ’90s hippies without all those positive traits you could attribute to actual ’60s hippies like non violence, idealism and a predilection for orgies. At my school, hippie meant privileged kids with long hair and Birkenstocks who were so emotionally scarred they could only interact with others by sitting in a circle and passing weed.
And so periodically throughout college, I was vilified as a fascist for disagreeing with some of the following statements:
Calling any girl over 12 a "girl" is hate speech;
If you sleep with a girl who has had a beer that night it’s date rape;
AIDS is the biggest crisis facing America (which even in the ’90s, by the way, was not the biggest cause of death in America);
A man has no right to say a mom is being selfish about anything ever (especially getting high while pregnant); and
Guns of any and all kinds should be outlawed in America.
Even more annoying, none of these disagreements were ever met with an actual debate. There was no capacity for debate. Only an unspoken agreement as conveyed by the passing of a bowl. But then, after college, I met a very liberal minded, educated, assertive young woman from UC Berkeley, and you know what? She didn’t hate me. She didn’t even disagree with most of the above, and if she did, she didn’t see those opinions as some evidence of my dark spirit. And where there was disagreement, there was the capacity to discuss and get deeper into someone’s head, and for the first time, I felt known. I felt she liked me for the right reasons, the real me, and I married her.Articles Connexes：